Here Ya Go
I stumbled upon this blog post and I wanted to share it. I found this part really interesting:
The problem with the ‘don’t write / don’t engage’ argument is that it once again places the onus on women. ‘Avoid men who may misbehave.’ ‘Don’t write (wear) provocative stuff. ‘If you’re going to go out there, you’re asking for it.’ Sounds familiar? So it’s interesting that after years of fighting some of these ridiculous notions when it comes to rape, we’re echoing the same mistakes in a different sphere.
I find this part interesting because I’ve not only said it (don’t engage these people) before on this blog but I do it myself. This may come as a shock to you but I don’t have a lot of patience. So I reach a limit with most people rather quickly. So I’ve always thought of my not engaging as walking away from a pointless discussion—stay around stupid long enough and you’ll catch it (and believe me, I have). But the idea that it’s a type of silencing is interesting and one to think about a bit more. Of course, the blog post is more serious than that because it’s talking about cyber-stalking and death threats.
By ‘developing a thick skin’, we often subtly condone unjust or inhuman behavior.
But the pressure is on the woman to change her behavior and not for the person who is in the wrong to change his behavior. So . . .
