The Essentia Sphere

Hey, people on LiveJournal! Stop responding to lost_kite! While I doubt s/he’s a troll, there is no doubt that s/he is a long-winded, semantics debater. And even worse: s/he is proud of it.

Aw, When Fangirls Attack. I once loved you. I don’t doubt that it’s hard work doing what you do. But you’ve given up the ghost. You like the drama too much. Plus, you’ve bent over backwards to make sure that you’re “fair” and in doing so, you’ve destroyed everything that was great about you. Also, for the love of all that is holy!—put names next to the links. I need to know which links to avoid.

Speaking of links from When Fangirls Attack . . . taking the time to “debate” someone who treats you like his little sister isn’t brave. When someone comes into a debate thinking that you are less than they are—when a double standard of behavior exists in a debate, you are not being brave by keeping it up. You are being foolish. And listen to this next part carefully because it’s important: just because the person you’re “debating” says that s/he’s a feminist/not racist/a really swell guy, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true. In fact, you can probably tell that someone isn’t really an ally or a feminist if he lets misogynistic comments go by without speaking up against them—especially when they’re on his own blog. Just because s/he says that s/he’s debating you in good faith and s/he keeps taking the time to answer your posts—none of that means that s/he is arguing with you to really learn something from you. It just means that s/he wants the last word.

Every place on the Internet is not your place. If people are talking shit about you on a message board—especially a locked part of that message board—don’t go joining it and posting. Christ on a cracker—defending yourself to strangers on the Internet makes no sense. Thinking that you have a right to storm a forum or a blog and throw hissy fits about what other people are saying is insane. I’ve seen MRAs do this. I’ve seen creepy middle aged women do this. Not only is it stupid, it shows a massive amount of entitlement, not only to the space but to other people’s attention.

Quit getting your panties into a wad because a group of people think you need to shut-up and listen. So, white people, quit crying because you’re asked not to use certain words. Quit whining because you may have to actually shut-up, not dictate the rules of an argument/a meeting/society like you once did, and listen to someone else’s viewpoint. Same goes for every other privileged group out there. It hurts when you don’t get to make up the rules, change them in the middle, and then punish people who don’t follow your rules, doesn’t it? Must be hard to have to treat other people equally to yourself.

Logic is not the only ability humans have developed over the years. We’ve also learned compassion, empathy, and kindness. We are not robots. Constant cries for logic and lack of emotion deny a major source of our humanity. Logic is nothing without compassion to guide it.

Am I the only person to have had my self-esteemed destroyed in middle school? I must have been because a hell of a lot of people post their pictures on-line. And they shouldn’t. Sure, I feel bad for thinking that but . . . damn, people! Hide in the dark like I do! I have made the world a better place by wearing a bag over my head . . . constantly.

If someone gets angry with you, it might not be because you “hit a little too close to the truth” but because you’re being a douchebag. In fact, the second one is much more likely.

If someone doesn’t like something, it doesn’t automatically follow that they don’t understand it or that they don’t “get it.” That’s one of the most condescending things you can say to a person. Not to mention, it shows a major lack of maturity to not be able to handle the fact that people like different things than you do.

Not everything is about you. Someone could post about a general societal problem and a good number of people will take it as some sort of personal insult. The world and its problems are bigger than you.

Anger is not a bad thing. It can be used and focused to change the world. But that’s OK—keep acting like you don’t care. That’s what helps to make the world a better place—indifference.

Everything a person does that you don’t like isn’t some sort of problem on their end. Not everyone is passive-aggressive/projecting/edgy/crying out for attention. Most of the time, people are just being dicks. That doesn’t mean they have some sort of major problem that should be labeled by the American Medical Association.

And while I have a lot of crap that irritates the hell out of me, what I see around me in the real world is pissing me off more than anything else. Your first instinct is to say, “Well, sure, the real world is full of people and you hate them too. Big shock.” in a sarcastic tone but that’s not what I mean. Yeah, they irritate me but what really upsets me is that a lot of them are struggling right now. Like losing their home/no groceries this week/nothing under the Christmas tree but that’s OK because they couldn’t afford a Christmas tree either kind of struggle. All these little irritations are fun to rant about but they are nothing compared to these problems.

And to add even more joy to your season:

Here ya go. But that’s OK because a man told me differently because he found one statistic that said differently so his one statistic must be true while the multiple places I’ve seen this kind of report must be wrong. Uh-huh.

Here ya go. Let the excuses for her attackers begin.

So . . . not really feeling the holiday spirit right now. Even a Batman action figure as our tree topper can not bring about that warm glow.